same day, another year

This year I am only going to offer two quotes from a mother who lost a daughter and a not-yet-grandchild that day, taken from her essay, The Sensitivities of 9/11 Families:

Since that morning, time in my world is no longer linear–it undulates, circles around the anniversary. 

For most of us who lost loved ones on that morning, there is no corner. There is no distance in time. We are still there. In the moment. At the site. Walking the pile. You don’t leave your children or your mother or father or cousin or best friend there and walk away. Time collapses. For most people in America, 9/11 comes around once a year, but not for me. For me, it is always here.

My experience of that day is different from hers. No less real, and infinitely less painful, but different. Yours is different from mine, and from hers.

© Sandy Mattingly 2010

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